IN HER OWN VOICE
Hi, I'm Lisa Massaro. I am a woman on a life long journey of self discovery. This is a part of my story.
My journey started in 1995. I had spent four years bouncing back and forth bewteen two very unhealthy relationships.
I allowed myself to be treated mizerably. I was settling for the left over attention and last minute thought for a date that either man was willing to give me.
My self esteem was at an all time low. I had lost my self worth and was headed down a familiar path. I was settling for those periodic moments in time when I felt wanted.
One day when I realized how pathetic and dangerous that was, I knew the pain was not enough of a pay off to be there anymore. I wanted and deserved more then the crumbs of attention and what I thought was love falling off the banquet table.
In 1995 I began working with a therapist to develop a loving relationship with myself. I worked on build my self esteem, developed an understanding of what healthy boundary setting looked like and rediscovered my own voice.
In mid 1996 I severed my ties with both men and emparked on a year of self healing and discovery. I stepped out of the dating scene and learn to have a love affair with myself.
I learned to enjoy my own company and loved being with myself. I learned that, if I did not like being with me, who else would want to be with me.
When I began to date again in early 1997, I made sure I was dating just for the sake of practicing what it meant to date without an attachment to the outcome; to enjoy the company of another person and to be comfortable being myself.
I learned to recognize the red flags in the dating relationships and decline future dates. If I was interested in someone but did not get a call for a second date, I knew I would be fine.
My happiness and love came from acknowledging I had a voice and that I did not ignore it. I learned to honor and listen to my intuition when it spoke. There was no more desperation to be needed, wanted or loved because I learned to give that to myself.
By the spring of 1997 I had attracted my future husband. I have been happily married to my husband since 1998.
Because of the work I started back in the 90's I am constently growing in my marriage. Our ability to communicate our own thoughts and feelings are key to our successful marriage.
I continue to practice using my voice. I know that if my voice goes missing, it is because I have slipped into an old familiar pattern. I remind myself that it is okay to have a voice.
I am still learning, growing and finding my voice within the context of our marital journey together as well as in other areas of my life.
Find your voice. There is more to you and what you have to offer in a relationship.
I am passionate about this journey.
I want to share it with you not just as a behavioral health clinician, but as a woman who have discovered her voice.
Call to schedule an appointment to begin your own journey in your own voice.
I look forward to working with you.
Lisa Massaro, LMFT
CA Lic #43286
Office Location:
448 S. Marengo Avenue
Pasadena,CA 91101
To schedule an appointment
Phone: (626) 399-4290
